No really, I want to know from anyone who might actually read this (according to WP, that’s about all of 85 people in about a month. WOO!!), when did you tell your parents/loved ones about your desire to start trying for a baby and your infertility experiences? Also, how often did you update them afterward?
Right now, that’s the dilemma that I’m dealing with. I want to tell my parents about everything that is going on because I know that they’d want to know, I want someone else to talk to about this experience, and keeping a secret this big from them just doesn’t sit right. The wife and I decided together not to tell them (or really anyone else) originally due to a variety of factors, most of which were related to we didn’t want them to become too concerned/excited, we didn’t want to have to continue to give updates on a daily/weekly basis, and we didn’t want an “unrequested” opinions about what we should be doing.
But, as time has gone on we’ve shared the news with my wife’s parents and shared it with a couple of friends. Because of the doctor appointments, I have shared it with my boss so that she doesn’t get worried and start thinking that I’m dying. But in all, we’ve kept the circle of information pretty tight, with many of our friends and family in the dark. But, now that we’re several months into the process, I am finding myself wanting to share everything with the two people who brought me into this world.
I do have permission from the wife to share the news, but the questions remain: when, how, and if. I’ve kept this secret for this long, so why change it now? We had reasons for not sharing at the beginning, and most of them still apply, so maybe we should just keep it all to ourselves. If I do tell them, when should I do it. I don’t want to take over Thanksgiving by dropping this news on them during the holiday, but is there ever really a good time? Lastly, how do I tell them that I have this huge and exciting news (we’re trying to have a baby), that is also kind of sad (we’re getting fertility help), that I’ve also kept from them for several months?
In all honestly, I’d love your thoughts (you being the entire world wide web, AKA my 85 visitors).
Anyway, that’s what’s on my mind as the wife and I wait for the estrogen birth control pills to do their things. I’ll have more on them in a day or two.